Navigating Whitewater

Worried that I would not like him, my victim had used his humor to engage me, to make me laugh, to join in his witty barbs, and because I did like him, I had joined in. But we were not on equal footing and my comments contained a much more powerful threat because I did not have to like him, and he knew it. —Amy L. WinkNavigating Whitewater (Inside Higher Ed)

A professor reflects after shutting off a class by getting too chummy with a jokester, and losing sight of where her obligation to teach must overpower the desire to join in the fun.